Get a Fulfilling Life, Not Just an Impressive Lifestyle

This Week with Sara Fitts continues with Thomas Leonard's 28 Principles of Attraction. This week we are looking at principle # 9: get a fulfilling life, not just an impressive lifestyle.

It really doesn't matter what car you drive, what designers you wear, what house you live in, where you vacation and how many times you travel in a year. You may have an impressive lifestyle - and that's fine. However, in the bigger scheme of things, all that doesn't matter at all if your life isn't fulfilling.

I believe that there is a huge distinction between living a life and having a lifestyle. The two are often interchanged and some feel are mutually exclusive. Thomas asked the question, "How much of my life is being consumed by my lifestyle?" and I think the question is powerful.

What are you really about? What do you really want to accomplish in your life? What about your life isn't really you at all? Interesting questions that need to be answered if you are going to attract all that you want in life.

Try this exercise - and see what happens.

1. Take an hour and sit in a quiet space and connect with yourself.
2. Write down what your own ideal life would look like.
3. Who would you really be? Where would you be? How would you feel? What would you do?
4. After an hour, stop the exercise. Let some time pass - and go back and read what you wrote. Tweak it as necessary.
5. Start living your ideal life. Don't hesitate.

Remember that a fulfilling life is not about an impressive lifestyle. It's so much more than that!

Much more to come from Sara Fitts......

Become Irresistibly Attractive to Yourself - and Attract More of What You Want

This Week with Sara Fitts continues the focus on attraction with the 8th principle from Thomas Leonard's 28 Principles of Attraction: become irresistibly attractive to yourself.

What does this mean exactly? It means that in order to attract any bit of what we want in life, we must look the part, play the part, feel the part, and be the part. We need to show up as if we already have attracted what we want. We must become irresistibly attractive to ourselves in order to fully attract what we want in life.

How do we become irresistibly attractive to ourselves? The answer, as far as I'm concerned, is this: Whatever it takes to make us feel empowered and 100% engaged in life is what we need to do in order to become irresistibly attractive. It is whatever makes us feel the very best about ourselves.

What makes you feel empowered and engaged? What makes you feel good about yourself? How do you see yourself in your mind's eye when you are feeling your best? Are you 10 pounds lighter? Is your hair a different style, cut or color? Are you wearing clothes that fit in a certain way? Are you smiling? Are you happy? Do you portray your happiness to others? How do you make other people feel when they are around you? Are you positive or negative in your thoughts, words, and actions? Are you irresistibly attractive to yourself?

One of my clients puts this principle in this way: If you were in a crowded room, would you ask yourself out?

I look at it this way: What qualities and attributes are attractive to you? Do you possess these same qualities and attributes?

How can you become irresistibly attractive to yourself? Really think about it - and define what would make you irresistibly attractive to yourself. Then put it into practice.

Become irresistibly attractive to yourself - and attract more of everything you want.

Market Your Talents Shamelessly

This Week with Sara Fitts features the 7th principle from Thomas Leonard's 28 Principles of Attraction: market your talents shamelessly.

This principle is difficult for most of us - but it really shouldn't be. After all, if we don't tell others how good we are at what we do, we will not attract what we want. Now this is totally different from bragging and rudeness! What I mean is that we should market ourselves and our talents by simply deciding what we want others to know - and then tell them exactly what we want them to know about what we can do for them.

My simple little formula for marketing your talents shamelessly is simply this:

1. List all of your talents, skills, and attributes.
2. Then draft a paragraph or two describing how you utilize your talents in order to help others. Be as specific as possible.
3. Develop a tag line - and use it every single time you speak to people.
4. Make a list of all the groups within your personal and professional network. Contact them and simply "re-introduce" yourself to them - letting them know what you can do for them and/or for people they know.
5. Follow up with everyone - and specifically tell them what you can do for them and others.

Market your talents shamelessly. Live up to your billing. And experience attraction. You will attract more business, more opportunities, more of everything. And success will be a by-product.

Affect Others Profoundly

This Week with Sara Fitts looks at principle # 6 of Thomas Leonard's 28 Principles of Attraction: Affect others profoundly.

I think we can affect others profoundly in a number of ways - some negative and some positive. My focus is only on affecting others profoundly in positive ways. We can enhance the way we affect others and here are some simple ways to do that.

• Listen twice as much as you speak.
• Say what you mean.
• Put a positive spin on everything - and still be realistic.
• Be realistic.
• Don't make judgements about people or their actions. Accept them as individuals.
• Get rid of negativity.
• Say something that matters every single time you say anything at all.
• Create win-win situations.
• Stop participating in win-lose situations.
• Personalize things instead of using generalizations.
• Recognize the contributions of others - and acknowledge them (both the contributions and the person).
• Reward hard work.
• Empower others.
• Focus on the goose and not on the golden eggs. People are always more important than the products they make.
• Make others feel special and important.
• Expect to find the best in others - and you will.
• Never miss an opportunity to tell someone how much you care about them and what they mean to you.
• Assess the value that others bring to your life - and then acknowledge it to them.
• Say "thank you" often - and mean it.
• Remember names.
• Remember that enthusiasm spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.
• Loosen up and enjoy life - this will really affect others profoundly.
• Be authentic.
• Be consistent - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
• Think outside the box.
• Extend your boundaries.
• Be more frightened of old ideas than new ones.
• Embrace new opportunities.
• Encourage others at every opportunity.
• Be bold.
• Be courageous.
• Be honest.
• Celebrate others.
• Smile.
• Be pleasant.
• Enjoy life - and enjoy living.
• Laugh.
• Make it about others and not about you.
• Give instead of take.
• Leave things better than you found them.

As you can see, my list can go on forever. But it really is all about the little ways we can all affect others profoundly. The ways themselves do not have to be profound in order to have profound effects.

When we affect others profoundly in positive ways, we will attract more of everything that is good in this world. I wholeheartedly believe this. Success is simply a by-product.